Ok, after fighting again 3 hours with the pixhawk and mision planer the fix works and all my motors starts up nicely, synchronized snd with the right rpm.
The fix in detail.
Reflash the pixhawk with the Arduplane firmeare was challenge nr one.
Missin plannee do not recognize my board when trying to flash new firmware, but able to connect with maink to mision planer. After one hour if searching the internet and multiple trys i found the solution. The procedure.
Connect the pixhawk to the pc. Wait for the message in mission planer to unplug the pixhawk ( because not recognized) click ok and plugging again.
So don't do this. Instead of disconnect just push the reset button from the pixhawk which is at the side near the usb plug and click then ok.
Try two times and then the board is still not recognized, but mission planer ask you if it's a linux board. So click "no" then it will ask if its a APM, then if its a pixhawk 2 and finally it will ask if it's a pixhawk. Now click yes and the firmware will be installed.
Ok same procedure again to flash the copter firmware and make all initil settings again. And without having to calibrate the ESCs again, because they was calibrated all works fine now.
Will try to hover first time tomorrow. After that i will configurate tha radio mavlink but for that i will need some beers i think.