I agree with the other guys, a high wing glider or cub is probably a better place to start when you finally get flying. Once you get something to fly, you will be kicking yourself at how easy it is and how much you struggled to begin with. I started with some cheap ebay cub that just refused to fly, no matter how hard I tried, or how many times I rebuilt it, it would crash after a few seconds of "flight". I finally built the FT Simple cub and it flew amazing. I couldn't believe how easy it handled and how forgiving it was. I flew it a few days then built a 150% FT corsair, because I thought I was ready for it. I was not, my first few crashes were luckily in tall weeds to break the fall.
When you get something flying, it will just click in your head and be much easier. I've noticed when I'm flying and am having a tough time with the control, I call it quits before I really break something, go back out the next day and I've somehow worked things over in my mind in my sleep and am much better the next day.
Fine control movements are key, full stick throws, left/right, up/down, are the biggest problem. once you get an oscillation started, it's really difficult to fly out of with a war bird. With something more docile like the cub, you can throttle down and let go of the controls and the plane will somehow level out on its own. With my corsair, whatever direction I let go of the sticks, it will keep going that direction at that angle until it hits something or stalls out. It's much less forgiving.
Keep going and eventually something will click and you'll be flying with the best of them.
Teich