It works!
I'm so happy this got sorted out. My first TH I bought from RaceDayQuads and I think they set it up and unlocked the VTX for me. So once I unlocked and realized I didn't fry it I went ahead and installed the NewBeeDrone.com receiver. I used the three DSMX pads, the (S)(-)(3.3v) ones directly under the camera plug (on the bottom side of the FC). Then I went into Betaflight and set UART2 SerialRX to on. That was it. I did have to do some channel reversing, set my end points and assign the AUX channels to be able to arm, change flight modes, etc. But, it works. I'm going to setup a switch for dual rates, or three rates I usually do one with super soft, one somewhere in the middle and one full on and after flying see which one is best to start from to start honing my preferences. So, I guess that's next.
I do have a question though. In betaflight it looks like there is already some expo added. I guess I should just read the WIKI, and I will, but does anyone have any info on why I might not want to move this to my DX9 and have it linear on the FC? Does having it on the FC make the flight characteristics different whereas on the controller no? Just curious. I'll make a backup first.
Again for anyone referencing this, with the NewBeeDrone micro (or is it nano?) receiver I used the (S)(-)(3.3v) pads, NOT the layout in the pic with the RX2 or whatever dot. That may work, and if you have one of the new SRXL receivers that may be what is necessary, but for the receiver I used the three obvious pads worked, and then just enable SerialRX on UART2.