After a few more flights of the current build, it looks like between the stress of the lift/mass layouts of the craft + crashes, the wing nearly ripped itself in 2 - the spar itself is still strong and in good shape, however, the foam of the wing ripped to bits near the connection to the fuselage causing the battery + flight controller to pendulum to an extend below the spar and it went crazy and crashed itself.
I am thinking that the foam just couldn't hold up to the forces (at least after being weakened by a few crashes) and I need to do some design considerations regarding this. I also don't have great access to the flight controller board (and can't stick an SD card into it to get black box data to help with tuning it later if needed), so some design work appears to be in my future.
Given the redesign needs, I am considering redesigning the craft over all and considering some different shapes that should allow stronger shapes with the same or less overall mass. (and if this doesn't work, I probably need to step up the motor size slightly and go up to 4s so that I can increase the lift significantly. Given WCL, it only need 20-25% increase in size to have the same WCL at double the mass, which would make it much easier to build a stronger structure and still be in the mass goal, this would likely make it fairly easy to get the needed results).