I think the WQ is using 4mm because of how narrow the boom is. But I suspect even 4mm is overkill for 98% of crashes. For SURE 4mm is overkill regarding stiffness for flight. It has, more or less, the same cross sectional area as the mini's we're talking about.
Going deep into the frame sure does improve the stiffness. For all practical purposes, it makes the 200mm frame center plate a virtual 7mm plate.
I'm using 2mm for mine throughout and I can't imagine breaking the booms which are 2mm x 20mm x 80mm. The 20mm dimension being more or less equivalent to most of the CF mini quads in this thread.
I think if I tried to break my WarpQuad over my knee, I would just end up with a busted knee. I have heard of a broken boom on a WarpQuad caused when an ESC shorted out against the CF and cooked the boom but I think broken WarpQuads are pretty rare and I have seen EarHog and Soma, FGA and Warthox smack a WQ pretty frickin' hard.
Not over thier knees of course.