so is the general consensus that nutball should be first? or is ft flyer a better first plane?
There is no general consensus. I think an Old Fogey or Old Speedster are great first planes, but the Flyer and nutball are easy builds, and were my first (same time). Both were out of Elmer's foam board and both heavy. They flew. From my experience I can say that no matter what, I advise to keep it slow and keep it simple. In my case Elmer's worked (But it made both planes heavy and faster). It was tough, and having both meant I wasn't necessarily done when the first bit the dust for the day, because....
I crashed. I fixed and flew again. I crashed. I fixed and flew again. I crashed. I fixed and flew again. I crashed. I fixed and flew again.
Use a prop saver, buy more props anyway.
Repeat and continue.
As mentioned, a simulation helps. While some are better than others all build the thumb/finger muscle memory required to fly.
Most of all have fun! A 20 second flight can be a blast if you remember how it went and what you might do differently next time.
JD